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Sometimes self-care gets a bad rap. It can be seen as individualistic, even capitalistic. While b.minton embraces all forms of self-care—what works for you, when and how it works for you—we also recognize that emphasizing the singular responsibility of care can be damaging and challenging to many women.
Today, let’s talk about community care. In its simplest terms, community care relies on the authentic connections and support of others. Instead of doing the work alone, community care embraces the “it takes a village” mantra.
This is a BIG concept, and not one that we can tackle in one Journal post. So, in the theme of providing women with realistic tools for self-care, here are some ways that you can explore community care:
First, find your people. If you are lucky enough to have your tribe of go-to women, it may be time to identify how they can be a part of your care. (Think joy, calm, balance.) Who can you text when you need advice, or just a laugh? Do you have a work-wife? Do you have any other mom friends (if you are a mom)? The important thing is to find your people and avoid the toxic ones. If you don’t have your go-to women, you may need to find them in unexpected places. While there are a lot of negatives with social media, for many people, it is an important source of digital connection…that sometimes even lead to in-person friendships.
Second, rely on your people. Here’s the hard part: ask for help. Being needed by a friend is a huge part of a friendship. Keep things balanced but ask your friends for support. It can be as simple as calling on a friend to come over and help you fold that massive pile of laundry that taunts you every day.
Third, be specific about your needs. We all struggle with this. Yet, to benefit from community care, you need to be specific about what you need. This may take some time to determine and that’s okay. Spend some time thinking on this so when a friend texts you “Are you ok? What can I do?” You don’t say “all good” when it’s not all good. Be ready to take them up on their offer to help.
Finally, don’t overcomplicate it. Is exercise one of your go-to activities? Instead of working out solo, find someone who you can exercise with on occasion. Not only will you get a better workout, but you will benefit from the communication. We don’t workout in silence with a partner. We talk. And that’s important.
The point of community care is to find, create, or tap into your community. Whatever community you feel most connected to (be it religious, ethnic, etc.), community care is about authentically showing up and supporting each other. When you feel as though the weight of the world is on your shoulders, it may be time to take a breath and tap into that village of yours.
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